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LGBTQ+ Therapy
The pressure to feel at ease and show up as yourself can be exhausting. For many LGBTQ+ people, you learn early to scan rooms, read cues, and adjust. You might soften parts of yourself, keep things vague, or decide ahead of time what feels safe to share. Over time, habits like monitoring what you say, how you act, or how visible you are start to feel less like choice and more like survival. Even when life is going well, there’s often a low-level tension or self-doubt humming in the background.
These experiences don’t come from nowhere. Growing up LGBTQ+ often means absorbing years of subtle and overt messages about who it’s acceptable to be. You learn when to stay quiet, when to perform, and when to brace yourself. This kind of ongoing minority stress can shape how secure you feel in relationships, how much space you allow yourself to take up, and how easily you relax in your own life. Feeling guarded, worn down, or disconnected isn’t a personal failing. It makes sense.
You deserve support, not silence. This is a space where you don’t have to edit yourself or stay on alert. You can talk openly about the pressure, fear, and self-protection you’ve been carrying, and begin to feel more grounded, more secure, and more like yourself.
You’re carrying so much more than anyone can see.
How we’ll work together
Support that’s warm, relaxed, and collaborative
As a gay psychologist, I understand how pressure from family, community, and culture can quietly shape how you see yourself and how much of yourself you allow to show. Therapy is a space where you don’t have to filter, translate, or justify who you are. You can speak plainly about the shame, perfectionism, and pressure to get it right that you’ve been carrying.
In our work together, we’ll look closely at how family dynamics, cultural expectations, and political realities have influenced your sense of safety and self-trust. There’s room here for the anger, fear, grief, and exhaustion that come with living in a world where LGBTQ+ people are often scrutinized or threatened. We’ll also pay attention to how you’ve learned to cope, protect yourself, and stay functional, even when it’s taken a toll.
Gradually, the background tension eases. Thoughts quiet down. Emotions feel more accessible. You’re less busy managing yourself and more able to stay with what’s happening.
You deserve a place where you’re understood at your core and can share openly without fear of judgment.
What You’ll Gain
Build confidence in your identity: Embrace who you are with greater self-assurance, free from fear of judgment or rejection.
Release shame and self-doubt: Let go of harmful, internalized messages and replace them with affirming beliefs about yourself.
Create healthier, more fulfilling relationships: Strengthen communication, set boundaries, and foster deeper connections with others.
Feel at peace with your body: Challenge unrealistic standards and develop a more compassionate relationship with how you see yourself.
Clarify your values and direction: Align your identity, goals, and priorities to create a life that feels authentic and meaningful.
Navigate challenges with resilience: Learn practical tools to manage societal pressures, family expectations, or workplace dynamics with confidence.
LGBTQ+ therapy can help you…
questions? I’ve got answers.
Frequently asked questions
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I take an integrative approach, combining psychodynamic therapy with practical, evidence-based tools. This means we’ll explore how your experiences, relationships, and the messages you’ve received about identity and belonging have shaped your sense of self. Alongside this deeper exploration, I use approaches like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you manage challenges, build healthier coping tools, and connect with what matters most to you. My goal is to provide a supportive, affirming space where you feel seen, understood, and empowered to create meaningful change.
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Yes! I identify as a gay, cisgender man (he/him) and I came out in 2010. You are welcome to ask me questions about my identities and experiences!
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No problem. I am trauma-informed and have years of experience in helping folks process and heal from painful experiences - whether they’re related to your identity or not.
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Yes, but these aren't areas I specialize in or have extensive experience with, so if this is a priority for you, we may not be a great fit.
